Friday, 13 January 2012
Watching someone else diet ...
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Something unexpected has happened in my house. My other half has put himself on a diet after being told by one health care professional that he was over-weight and being told by another that he was within acceptable weight range for his height.
The form this diet has taken is very familiar to me as it’s the sort of thing I used to do once I’d become disenchanted with the major diet clubs and started inventing my own. He’s stopped eating butter and hard cheese and has been using margarine and slices of various meat stuffs instead in his sandwiches. He talks about the strategies he’s adopting to cut out snacking and tells everyone he meets how many pounds he’s lost so far.
He claims to have lost ½ a stone already and he knows this because he’s been weighing himself every morning.
At some point he’s going to hit the dreaded dieter’s ‘plateau’ and will wonder why the weight loss has stopped.
It’s quite scary to watch someone I’ve known for 26 years putting himself through the sort of torture that I put myself through for most of those 26 years. It’s all the more scary because he’s always seemed to understand what I was doing with Beyond Chocolate and supported me in giving up dieting forever.
I find I am rather impatient with him because I’ve been through all this before, so many times, over so many years and ultimately it’s doomed to failure. And the failed dieter then blames his or herself and tries again, so many times, so many different ways until their metabolism (and their mind) is completely messed up.
The problem with this, of course, is that the new-born dieter can only see the initial ‘success’. There is weight loss. This is working! They feel empowered, virtuous, like they’re taking control of their lives for the better. They have a shared vocabulary with lots of other people who are also dieting.
I don’t know what’s going to happen long-term with my other half’s self-imposed diet. I guess I will wait and see and make an effort not to be judgemental or impatient with him and then pick up the pieces and be sympathetic if necessary.