The helpful advice on the internet is now focusing on ‘Your Dieting Mistakes’. These include; missing meals, skipping carbs, eating less, not exercising, ‘all or nothing’ mentality, keeping ‘forbidden foods’ in the house and not avoiding ‘traps’ like cake shops on the way to work ...
I personally think that the first big mistake is to go on a diet! And I’m delighted that none of this is relevant to me any more (apart from the exercise bit, but that’s another blog!), but I know from personal experience and also from the conversations on the Beyond Chocolate Forum, that some of the same issues arise for many of us as we work with the principles. So over the next couple of blog posts, I’ll have a look at some of the more common Beyond Chocolate ‘Mistakes’, and what we can do about them instead ... stand by for some Tough Love!
Mistake number one: Assuming that it’s not going to work.
Let’s face it; Beyond Chocolate is a pretty revolutionary idea. For the last 40 odd years women have looked in one direction only for how to manage their eating – the diet industry has had a field day. It’s become almost expected for women to start a diet before weddings (their own and other people’s), in time for ‘bikini season’, before and after major events that involve a lot of eating (Easter and Christmas), and sometimes just because a friend wants to do a diet and has asked for support.
There is a growing movement in the States and over here that is challenging the notion that dieting is the best way to manage over-eating and/or lose weight etc and Beyond Chocolate is in the vanguard of that movement. However, it will take time to change attitudes and stop women from turning instantly to dieting, rather than investigating the alternatives.
Almost no-one (apart from Beyond Chocolaters!) will start a diet assuming it’s not going to work, so why begin Beyond Chocolate assuming it won’t work? Perhaps having a clearer idea of what you want from Beyond Chocolate at the outset might help with that feeling that ‘it’s not working because I haven’t lost weight.’ Why not turn it around and say, ‘It is working because ...’ and look at your successes rather than your perceived ‘failures’. For example, do you sometimes eat when you are hungry instead of always at meal times? Do you respond to your body’s request for a particular food? Do you buy clothes you like regardless of the size on the label? Do you exercise because you enjoy it rather than because it might help you lose weight? All of these are successes and can be celebrated.
Of course, at the end of the day, if what you really want is to lose weight, you may have to be prepared to either work consistently with the principles and/or wait while your body processes this new change in your eating habits. Remember how long it took you to reach this point – how long you’ve been dieting/bingeing – it could well take time to turn it around again. Diets promise dramatic weight loss in less and less time – Beyond Chocolate offers a way to completely free us from yo-yo dieting hell, and I personally am prepared to wait for as long as it takes.