Wednesday, 26 January 2011
What's top of your priority list?
So, these days I put ME first.
I remind myself often of a line from one of my favourite poems…
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul… (Oriah Mountain Dreamer - The Invitation)
I stay true to myself a lot. I do something for myself at least ONCE every day. In big ways and in small ways. And sometimes that might mean saying no to someone else. It may well mean disappointing another. I make the time to go for walks (this morning at 3 mile walk at 6.45am - impressive eh!) which means I’m not there to see the children off to school. I buy really expensive chocolate, lots of it (and I’m not particularly partial to sharing it, with anyone!) and I make sure I have a cup of tea in the afternoon and do nothing but stare out of the window and savour my current favourite. I have a bath instead of a shower and take at least 6 deep, slow breaths. I have some special, quiet time and I’m not available to anyone for anything. Crisis or no crisis. I massage my feet with an amazing body oil (a wonderful Christmas present from Fairy Clare) every morning before I put my socks on… and I will not be disturbed! I say no to seeing clients on my day off, even though it would mean earning extra money (which would be a real bonus for the family).
The more I put myself first, the better I feel about myself.
The more I say YES to the things I love, the things that excite me, the things that make me sigh with joy, with relief, with pleasure… the less I eat.
Putting myself first is not selfish, it’s life affirming and sensible. Putting myself first means I am MORE available to do all the things I listed in the first paragraph.. without feeling resentful or saintly or taken for granted.
How do you put yourself first? Are you willing to disappoint another to be true to yourself?
Are you willing to value yourself enough to take notice of what you yearn for?